Quick! Somebody shoot Jason Whitlock and Bob Costas the newsflash about Daren Ruffin— and the pun is definitely intended, thank you very much.
First, the principles: Whitlock, is a sports columnist based in Kansas City. When Kansas City Chiefs linebacker Jovan Belcher used a handgun to kill first his girlfriend Kasandra Perkins and then himself, Whitlock wrote, “what I believe is if Belcher didn’t own a gun, he and Kasandra Perkins would be alive today.”
Costas is a play-by-play announcer for NBC Sunday Night Football. He was so smitten by Whitlock’s comments that he read them aloud on a broadcast.
Ruffin is the Baltimore man who police have charged with fatally stabbing his wife, Melissa Harris, after being released on his own recognizance on a charge of domestically abusing his wife.
Apparently, Whitlock and Costas believe the only way abusive boyfriends,
ex-boyfriends, husbands and ex-husbands can kill their girlfriends, ex-girlfriends, wives or ex-wives is by shooting them.
NONE, in the alternate universe Whitlock and Costas inhabit, stab their women to death. Or strangle them to death. Or beat them to death.
It’s a silly notion, of course, but liberals usually go into emotional overdrive after some gun tragedy— the Belcher-Perkins murder-suicide, Sandy Hook— and make silly statements based on emotion. There is usually no discernible logic in their arguments against guns.
What the Ruffin case proves— if indeed, Ruffin is found guilty, and police say he has confessed to fatally stabbing his wife— is that abusive men will use any means to kill the women they abuse.
Here’s the REAL tragedy about guns in the Belcher-Perkins matter, and in that of Ruffin and Harris: the wrong people had the weapons.
If Perkins had a handgun to protect herself against the abusive Belcher, that story might have ended differently, with Perkins standing over Belcher’s bullet-ridden corpse.
If Harris had a handgun, she could have popped a cap in Ruffin before he got anywhere near her with that knife.
I’ve said this and believed this for years: a woman who is the victim of domestic violence should forego restraining orders or calling the cops or appealing to the heel’s better nature by begging him to stop beating her. She should let a .25 caliber automatic be her restraining order. In other words: shoot the bastard.
Men who abuse women really don’t understand the language of “Please, please, don’t beat me anymore.” But they sure as heck understand the message a bullet between the eyes sends.
I give that advice to women as often as I can. When I was still a columnist at The Baltimore Sun, I was doing a story about a collaborative effort between some Dunbar High School students and some staff members at Johns Hopkins Hospital.
One of the women that worked at Hopkins pleaded with me not to use her name. Her abusive ex-boyfriend didn’t know where she was, the woman explained, and she didn’t want him to find her.
I agreed not to use her name, but gave her this advice: “Young lady, your ex-boyfriend needs to make the acquaintance of those esteemed Americans Mr. Smith and Mr. Wesson, and not in a good way.”
It’s too bad Harris didn’t introduce Ruffin to Mssrs. Smith and Wesson
especially after the raw deal she got from the state of Maryland.
Her husband is jailed on a domestic violence charge and gets released on his own recognizance. I’ve known— personally— guys that went to booking on the SAME CHARGE and got nailed with bails of $50,000 or more.
That’s not the worst of it. According to the January 27, 2013 edition of The Baltimore Sun, “Ruffin had been arrested six times in as many months, four times in Massachusetts and two times in Maryland on charges that he hurt his wife.”
I won’t even start on my tirade that it was two of the bluest states in the union that cut a psychopath loose to murder his wife. That would take the next 10 columns.
The states of Maryland and Massachusetts failed to protect Melissa Harris. Could we have blamed her if she had chosen to protect herself?