Five tips for mom’s back-to-school sanity
8/22/2014, 8:22 a.m.
Equipped with over two decades of experience on the air as well as her new book “Shake Up Your Life: 30 Steps To Powerful Brilliant Living,” Jennifer Keitt has designated five essential tips designed to help moms better keep their sanity in the upcoming school year because who says that only kids get stressed out!
With more than one million listeners across the globe each week as the host of Today’s Black Woman Radio Show and her new talk show, The Jennifer Keitt Show, which airs on KISS 104FM in Atlanta, Georgia, Keitt has represented the power and perseverance of women, challenging them to invoke change and conquer the world in unique and creative ways. She has interviewed notable women on her show including Maya Angelou; Mary J Blige; Angela Bassett; Tina Turner; Halle Berry; Susan Taylor; and Mellody Hobson.
Here are her five tips designed to help moms better keep their sanity in the upcoming school year:
Heal self-defeating thoughts: “I stunk at math and my kids will stink too!” This was my greatest self-sabotaging thought as a Mom, and I had to heal! As Moms we allow toxic negative thoughts to run through our minds every single day. It’s time to stop it this school year! Moms can be defeated in their parenting before they get out of bed in the morning. Thoughts can’t be removed— they have to be replaced. So here is what every Mom needs to try: Face the fear. Just because you aren’t good at math, for example, doesn’t mean that’s going to be your child’s truth. It’s hard, but arrest those thoughts as soon as they enter into your mind (handcuff it literally). Then replace the negative “Jimmy isn’t going to “get” math thought with “Jimmy is smart, resourceful and able to do it!” (Plus Mom, you can hire a tutor or grab a homework coach to support him). Repeat these “healing” thoughts and strategies every time those old self-defeating ones come up.
Have patience with yourself: Life takes patience—especially life as a Mom! So the cookies burned up—run to the store and put some store bought cookies on the tray to send into school! So your child is wearing the same socks two days in a row—he/she won’t die, cut yourself some slack. Take a deep breath, slowly exhale and give yourself the gift of having patience with YOU every day this school year.
Attend to your own needs: It’s hard for Moms to “put their oxygen masks on first.” I know. I’ve raised four kids! The boldest thing Moms can do is to dare to take care of themselves first. Get up early and go out on that Saturday morning run. Grab that cup of coffee with a friend for girl talk. Take a long bath locked behind closed doors at midnight! Attending to your own needs first is taking the time to honor you, and preparing to be the best Mom possible for your kids this school year. You can’t be who you haven’t nurtured and you can’t give what you don’t have.