Let your comeback be stronger than your setback!

Nikki Abraham, The Nucleus Team, Positively Caviar, Inc. | 12/15/2017, 10:56 a.m.
When things don’t tend to go your way you are ultimately left with two options: give up and throw in ...
“The Nucleus” (left to right) Jean Claude Louis-Charles III, Shayma Sulaiman, Nikki Abraham and Chazz Scott Courtesy Photo

— When things don’t tend to go your way you are ultimately left with two options: give up and throw in the towel or lift your head up and overcome.

Giving up and letting go of your dreams will leave you with the mindset that you are unable to accomplish your set goals. Figuring out how to overcome will prove to the “naysayers” and to you that you are able to fulfill the destiny that you were put here on earth to accomplish.

Here are a few ways to set yourself up for a comeback in the midst of trials and tribulations:

Grow through what you go through. Struggle is inevitable. It’s important to realize that it’s not about what you are going through but how you are growing through. I find so much inspiration from stories about people who have had difficulties in their life but still manage to end up on top. How your life prevails is not about what happens to you, it’s how you react to it. Life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you react to it. Ask yourself if you are learning from your setbacks and becoming a better person because of it.

If at first you don’t succeed dust yourself off and try again. Late R&B songstress, Aaliyah said it best. Things will not always go your way. You may not always get the #1 spot. Letting defeat keep you from reaching your goals is only doing a disservice to yourself. We were not put on this earth to be second best so don’t stop trying for the #1 spot. Study your craft and find the areas that you feel need more work and take the necessary steps needed to crush your goals. It’s always possible! The end result will be an overall reflection of your time and effort. You get out what you put in. Give it your all every time and you will never fail.

Push yourself— no one is going to do it for you. A lot of people are fortunate enough to have people in their corner providing the motivation to reach the top spot. While encouragement means everything, you will quickly realize that no one in the world will hold your hand and take the necessary steps to success for you. Encourage yourself, and approach every situation as if it’s sink or swim. Think about the Oprahs and Jay-Zs of the world who were not born with a silver spoon in their mouths but still managed to make it to the top. Other people may not understand your vision and they don’t have to. Keep your ultimate goal in mind and be your own motivation.

When the caterpillar thought its life was over it began to fly. You may think it’s over? No, my friend, it’s just getting started. Sometimes you experience your ultimate pitfall before you end up on top. I’ve had moments when I felt like I wanted to drop off the face of the earth. Hey, we are all human. I’m not saying that the punch in the gut feeling won’t happen but it’s important to realize it doesn’t have to end there.

Continue to make decisions in life that will ultimately lead you down the road to success. So, stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit. It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

Positively Caviar, Inc. is focused on positivity and optimism in our digitally centric lives in the Mid-Atlantic region. To learn more about our organization, the nucleus team or how you can join our positive movement, visit: staybasedandpositive.com.