As you step into a new year most people become anxiety filled when thinking about their goals and what’s to come in their next phase of life. You have in your mind everything you desire as it relates to career, family, relationship, finances, etc. and of course you can’t help but think as you ideate plans for your future, what if it doesn’t work out? After having these same thoughts, what I realized is that I was asking myself the wrong question, because what if it does?
When you focus on the worst possible outcome those things are likely to come true. In an effort to make good things come your way, you must first believe that it will. Having faith that everything will work out the way that it’s supposed to, is the first step in changing your mindset. This approach of positive psychology will help you cultivate what is best for you and ultimately be happy with the outcome.
Steve Harvey once said, “If you are going through hell, keep going. Why would you stop in hell?” The power of finding the courage to work through undesirable moments will truly show your strength of character. It’s important to understand that you are capable of anything you put your mind to. Obstacles are inevitable but don’t get thrown off. Your focus is what sets you apart from the rest.
Many have the mindset that they’ll be happy when something great happens for them but what they fail to remember is how important it is to be happy in the “right now.” When you believe that all will work out the way it is supposed to, you are most likely to be happy in the process. You may hate your job but once you realize the salary from your job is what will help you start your own business, your mindset will shift. Couples therapy may be annoying but when you realize that your relationship will be able to withstand the test of time it may be easier to sit through. Learning to be content in the now can have a significant impact on the future.
Lately, I’ve been really into real estate and home improvement shows. What I’ve learned the most from watching these shows is that the building or selling process does not happen overnight. It’s truly astounding to see the beginning product vs the end result like a house being built from the ground up or going from empty to staged. At the beginning, you see the potential but when it “all works out” in the end you see the finished product. Another important note to take away is how much the value in a property will increase after the work is put in. Think of your life in this way, stay true to your vision and watch it manifest. The price is only going up.
I’m a strong believer in, “everything happens for a reason.” If you’re anything like me, you have a planner calculating all of your next steps and goals. While it’s important to have a blueprint, it is also important to recognize the power of the pivot. Just because things didn’t work out as planned doesn’t mean the outcome isn’t favorable or acceptable.
It’s okay to have a concept of what it could be but make room to allow the plan to shift for the beautiful things destined for your life because it will work out the way that it is supposed to.
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