Nikki Abraham

Nikki Abraham Nucleus Team Member Positively Caviar, Inc. COURTESY PHOTO

I went to lunch with a friend a few years ago and he started off our conversation in a way that has remained with me to this day. We greeted each other and sat down but instead of the typical, “How are you?” he asked a very simple but important question that forced me to dig deep, “What are you working on?” This was interesting because with a question like that I was unable to keep my feedback cute and simple. With my response, I was forced to analyze my life on the spot.

Oscar Wilde said it best, “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist.” Living means choosing to embrace life— doing everything that you can to lead you towards happiness and fulfillment. Existing is the exact opposite. It’s literally being present physically and doing what is necessary to make it through the day.

Evaluate your existence with this in mind. Do you think there is more you can be doing to ensure you are living a purpose driven life?

Thinking through what I was working on gave me the opportunity to evaluate my life on a mental, spiritual and emotional level. After that lunch, I made a life-changing decision to start off my day by asking myself these questions. What am I working on? What are my goals? How am I tracking towards my goal? Not only did this give me space to really identify what I wanted in this lifetime but noting how I was working toward my goals held me accountable.

Please note that it’s okay to not have it all figured out. Most people grow up thinking they have to have a perfect plan for their life but what happens when things don’t go according to plan? Despite what the Internet or parents may tell you about where you are or what you should be doing at this point in your life, you must remember that you are the only person in this world solely responsible for achieving YOUR goals nobody else’s. The first step is ensuring that you are living your life with passion and purpose and everything else will follow.

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. We all know somebody who had so much potential but never truly stepped into what life had to offer. If you ever feel yourself getting stagnant and too comfortable with just existing, it may be time to embrace change. Most people think life is only about creating safety and security and pursuing contentment. While these things are important, by just focusing on comfort we as a result limit can limit ourselves from the full range of human experience.

Now is the time to put the effort into creating a purpose driven life. Take the steps to identify exactly what it is that you’re working on. Here are some tips:

  • Identify what you’re passionate about
  • Evaluate your mental, physical and spiritual health
  • Learn to give and receive
  • Set long-term and short-term goals.
  • Live every day to the fullest

Positively Caviar, Inc. (PCI) is a grassroots nonprofit organization focused on instilling mental resilience by way of positive thinking and optimism. To learn more about how you can support, volunteer, or donate to Positively Caviar, Inc. please visit: staybasedandpositive.com.